Mindfucked

mindfuck v.

  1. To mess with someone’s head until they are quite confused.
  2. An obscure type of porn where the penis is inserted into a hole drilled in someone’s skull.
  3. Actually there’s no 3. If you believe in 2, you’ve just been mindfucked.

This is Ericka. She’s this great girl I met last weekend.

Ericka is 26, attached, a research analyst, a Godfather fanatic, a cat lover, a Xiaxue and kennysia.com reader. At least that’s what I know is true about her.
Ericka is also the queen of cock-and-bull stories, like how when I first met her, she told me she’s 36 and her name wasn’t Ericka, but Julie. She also told me she has two kids, aged 10 and 6, both with Down’s syndrome. But she talk cock only, not true one.

Ericka is a feisty little girl with a bubbly personality and a great load of fun to hang out with. How exactly I got to know her has gotta be ranked up there as one of the most bizarre moments in my life.
(This is gonna be quite a long story, so go grab a cup of coffee and make yourself comfortable.)

It all started last Saturday night when I ventured out with David to Kuching’s newest drinking hole at the Travilion for Halloween. I did my stuff, drank myself silly, returned home at 3am and was about to call it a night when I got a phone call from HB, another blogger from Kuching.
HB: Kenny! Were you at MC3 just now?

Kenny: Eh, I was. How did you know?
HB: I was there too. My friends said that they saw you and you even took a picture of us!
Kenny: I did? I didn’t even know you were there. Where are you now?
HB: I’m at Miami!
Kenny: Where’s Miami? (Florida?)
HB: Miami is near Rainforest.
Kenny: Alright, I’ll head down there in a bit.
HB: Wait, wait… my friend wants to talk to you…
*HB passes the phone over to someone*

Unidentified Female Observer: Is this Kenny?
Kenny: Yeah it is.
UFO: Hi, my name is Julie. We were with HB at MC3 just now.
Kenny: Ya I know! I didn’t see you guys when I was there!
UFO: We’re at Miami now. Are you gonna come?
Kenny: Errr… It’s a bit late… but yea I’ll come.
Half an hour later I drove down to Miami (which was actually located opposite Hilton and not in Florida) to find John, Sebastian, HB and “Julie” sipping drinks in a quiet bar.

To be honest, I didn’t think much of “Julie” when I first saw her. I can see that she’s above average-looking. She just didn’t quite catch my attention. Maybe if she were someone I bumped into in the streets, I would turn my head to check her out but I’d easily forget about her 2 seconds later.
Besides, I was there to catch up with HB.
We didn’t talk much that night. Just some trivial stuff. The four of us left after only about 20 minutes and I thought no more about the evening.
Until the day after, when I got mindfucked by Ericka so much, I think my head is getting pregnant.

It was a lazy hungover Sunday afternoon. I was at Bing Coffee together with David and Ah Yang going through the finer details of the Detox Diet, when I got this phonecall from an unidentified 016 number.
Mindfucker: Hello may I speak to Kenny?
Kenny: Yah, that’s me.
Mindfucker: Uhmm… I’m calling to ask if you have a job opening?
Kenny: A job opening? Not that I know of. Who’s this? How did you get my number?
Mindfucker: Oh I got it from a friend. She said to look for you if I want to get a job.
Kenny: No no no… I won’t be the one responsible for filling vacancies. Look, why don’t you pass me a copy of your resume and I’ll see what I can do about it.
Mindfucker: Resume? No need resume lah. I want to be your personal assistant!
Kenny: Huh? But I don’t need a personal assistant!
Mindfucker: But I want!
Kenny: Alright then how would you like to ‘personally assist’ me?
Mindfucker: Do you know who I am?
Kenny: Who?
Mindfucker: I’m Julie.

Kenny: Julie? Julie from last night? Yeah I remember.
“Julie”: Listen, I wanted to apologise. We called you so late last night to ask you out and then when you came we all left just like that.
Kenny: Oh that? Nah, don’t worry about it. It’s no biggie.
“Julie”: You’re not pissed? I know I’d be pissed.
Kenny: Not at all. I’m fine. Really.
“Julie”: Heyyyy… I wanted to ask you something.
Kenny: Shoot.
“Julie”: What do you think of me?
Kenny: You? Err… I don’t know? I’ve only known you for like 15 minutes.
“Julie”: What’s your first impression of me?
Kenny: Well, I can see that you’re nice and friendly and approachable.
“Julie”: That’s all!?!
Kenny: Hey, that’s all I could tell in that 15 minutes of knowing you!
“Julie”: Would I be someone you’d bring out on a date?
Kenny: If I’m single, I’d bring you out on a date.
“Julie”: But you’re single in Kuching what!
“Julie”: !!!
“Julie”: Ok. What do you think of XiaXue?
Kenny: What?!
“Julie”: If you could choose between me or XiaXue, which one would you choose?
(Are you nuts?! You don’t ask people questions like that after knowing them for only 15 minutes.)

Kenny: Ummm… YOU?!
(Tip for guys: For the love of your own coconuts, if you’re ever asked questions like that by a girl, ALWAYS say you’ll choose her even if you had to lie through your teeth. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.)
“Julie”: YOU SURE OR NOT?
Kenny: Yeah… !
“Julie”: What are you doing tonight?
Kenny: Tonight? No special plans leh.
“Julie”: Wanna go out or not?
Kenny: Err… sure.
“Julie”: Ok loh then I’ll give you a call later tonight.
The meetup later that night went quite well with the level of mindfucking kept to the minimum. But Ericka had already messed up my head pretty bad.

For some obscure reason, the telephone conversation we had kept playing up in my mind. I was thinking – she’s attached, she knows I’m attached, we got nothing to offer each other except a friendly platonic relationship. So what was that conversation all about?
Over the next few days, I woke up thinking about Ericka, I shat thinking about Ericka, I went to work thinking about Ericka and I went to bed thinking about Ericka. Not in the I-miss-her kinda way. More like who-the-heck-is-this-girl-and-what-the-hell-does-she-want-from-me kinda way.

Chupachups and Chivas never looked so good.

Maybe she just wanna be friends with the person behind the blog she reads. And in a way she achieved that. Truth to be told, if it weren’t for that phone conversation, I wouldn’t give two hoots about her. But she called, she got my attention and I’m actually glad things happened that way.
After that unusual initial meeting, I gradually got to know Ericka a little better over the course of the Hari Raya long weekend. We cleared things up. The personal assistant thing and the Xiaxue thing were obviously nothing more than talking cock.

John, Sebastian, myself, Ericka, and a ghost.

Surprisingly, she told me none of these were planned. It just so happened that John spotted me at the club that night, asked HB to call me over, who introduced me to Ericka, who just happened to be there. And all the silly things she said on the phone were just spontaneous reaction.
Ericka is just this naughty, playful and feisty personality who has a penchant for being overly friendly to everyone. But overall I still like her. She may say things that mess with people’s head. More often than not she does it without any malicious intent. So we’re close friends now, and it’s all cool.

My point is, the art of mindfucking seems to be permanently ingrained in women’s DNA. All women exudes that kind of charm and beauty most men find difficult to resist. They know it and some knows how to use it effectively as a weapon without coming across as slutty or sexual.
The trick seems to be mindfucking men into believing that they might have a shot at fucking the real thing.
I know girls use it on their boyfriends ALL THE TIME. They mindfucked you into buying her those Louis Vuitton handbags or that Ferragamo shoes, all the while subtly hinting that if you swiped your platinum credit card at the cashier counter you might get lucky tonight.
Too bad. Come bedtime, the only thing you’ll be fucking with is your left hand.
Girls are evil. And us guys are just suckers for that.


I’m surprised a lot more people from Kuching read kennysia.com than I had expected. Or hoped for. Went out Thursday night and I was recognised by no less than 10 strangers who told me “You are Kenny Sia! I read your blog!”
It’s nice, but all these while I’ve been trying to keep kennysia.com a low profile in Kuching (I hate the gossips). Obviously that didn’t work too well. Shucks.

111 Replies to “Mindfucked”

  1. Among the 3 girls, Xiaxue, Ericka, and me, who would you choose? You must give me an answer that makes me happy but you cannot say is me since I know it will be a lie. And why you take so many pics of her.

  2. hey, mind fucking is fun man… i once fucked with this guy’s head so bad he tried to jump off the roof of his house… true story.. ok lah, i didn’t mean to go that far… but damn fun man..

  3. I’m gonna have to moderate this comment area.
    I’m fine if people want to judge or comment negatively against me, but I have an issue if people here judge a person just because I put up his/her picture. I’m sorry but this ain’t a beauty pageant.
    What I hope is that astute readers can comment on their experiences mindfucking someone or being mindfucked, whether or not it’s true women use their charm to get what they want, rather than shallowly commenting on how good or bad a photo looks.

  4. That’s such a fucking travesty of an article. You plainly do not understand what is going on, and it’s even more basic than the sex urge. This is simple power play, it’s a basic role-reversal where the woman rubs your ego by paying attention to you, thus giving you a false sense of importance. You’re still a victim you pudgy sheister, because you ended up writing a fuck-knows-how-many-words column all about the experience, including her pics and whatever, all the time massaging your own ego whilst standing there like a puppy with your tail between your leg.
    If you want to learn from this, become a real fucking man and don’t just let your john thomas guide your every meandering movement.

  5. we human males are just programed to take watever bloody chance of creating an offspring even if its next to impossible
    or in plain words just geting laid
    or if u dont wana see it tat way, just geting invovled with something 🙂

  6. aiyoyo u better don’t get fool by her la she’s that type of gal and how i know? i study at the same school as her of cos i know hahaha but well i doubt if she didn’t have any intention over you. But it’s true she fool around more than she take someone seriously for long. But hopefully she have changed! anyway all the best and she’s a fun gal to be with just don’t get yourself indulge!

  7. guys’ IQ plummet straight to -1999999 when it comes to slightly smarter females.
    YOU BEEN MINDFUCKED !!!! a new MTV series i hope not to see

  8. That girl is hot, but what’s up with the mindfucking man-brows? I’d give her RM20 for a date with the eyebrow plucker. Seriously.

  9. Bewildering eh?
    Its easy to judge people by scratching the surface. The girl is feisty and playful, no doubt. She’s a good person in the core. Bob is right. In plain, u became a sucker with an ego the size of Michelin marshmallow-man on a blimp not in touch with your nads size in reality (ref: your previous post)
    >>>”Julie”: If you could choose between me or XiaXue, which one would you choose?

  10. ERICKA,….YOU’RE A CHEAP SLUT IN THERE AND I
    ,M SO UGLY HEHEHE……WELL… THAT’S HOW IT ALWAYS SOUNDS NICE ONCE POSTED IN THE BLOG. PLAY SUMMORE LAR…THIS ONE BLOG NIA..LATER TABLOID HOW?…:p

  11. Oey! No pics of me, I said. Ugly pics! Ugh…
    John, this IS becoming tabloid-like.
    You believe everything you read in the tabloids man?

  12. “Come bedtime, the only thing you’ll be fucking with is your left hand.”
    wah, kenny… u left-handed with her in ur mind? omg… LOL!
    u knew her last Sat and now u r close frens ah?

  13. sexy man, I don’t care who the fuck you are, but if you don’t appreciate a girl with thick eyebrows, it must be your mind is retarded. A spastic man like you shall not regard yourself as ‘sexy man’ as that’s a shame to the human male species, but rather, spastic psychotic freaks. Listen here mate. You don’t fuck with eyebrows. So what the fuck you care so much about eyebrows?

  14. Well, we guys are just hardwired to go after anything with a skirt that looks vaguely good-looking, with some (perceived) interest in us a bonus. Its plain old evolutionary psychology. “Don’t try, means die”. Not our fault, its our male genes that are speaking.
    In this case, kenny is extremely justified in achieving a state of mind-fuck’ness. She’s not bad at all! Looks plus vivacious personality usually equates a winner. Nah, those eyebrows aren’t a problem.

  15. Have u guys seen girls with really thin eyebrows? To the male genitalia it shouts “useless to have offsprings with”. pluck until botak then colour look nice meh? y dun they shave their hair and then use swan stabilo color pencil and color their head
    😉

  16. no offence but shes pretty ugly and she has a black sheep growing above her eyes are soemthing i think its time she had an appointment with the hair plucker. haha ur blog is very amusing. =]

  17. no offence but shes pretty ugly and she has a black sheep growing above her eyes are soemthing i think its time she had an appointment with the hair plucker.
    Posted by: annie at November 7, 2005 01:17 PM
    i agree with you annie. Why not let Kenny pictures of you so we can see your pretty pictures in it? Just out of curiosity, your beauty salon out of business lately? Maybe u could give ericka a ring and see if she can bring a bunch of “sheep eyebrowed” friends to patronize your salon…
    Kenny, watch out dude. Annie must be a heck-u-va chick….. Snap pics of her. I wanna see, I wanna see

  18. Hey annie, it seems like you like to plug hairs. I have many thambi friends with black smelly bushy armpits. Maybe you will be delighted to plug bushy armpit hairs as well? Do you operate private parts? Many bangla needs your services.
    Oh by the way, no one knows who the fuck you are, and you saying someone ‘has a black sheep growing above her eyes’. So it means that yours have smelly black bush sticking out your nipples?
    You are so jealous, it makes you a loser. Spastic loser, to be exact. That’s a sure sign of deperation.

  19. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Certain body parts of the women turn certain men on and not others. This is just the beauty of natural selection, else we’ll be one of those extinct species in the museum if all men go after a certain typical body type and look.

  20. “Girls are evil. And us guys are just suckers for that”
    I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to generalize like that….
    Not all girls are evil!
    I’m sure youre girlfriend isn’t…
    And guys are suckers for that??
    I think most guys are suckers for any chic that’s got a decent looking face and a hot body… whether she is an angel or the devil himself reincarnated wouldn’t make a damn difference…so long as she looks hot… 😉
    Heheh…
    Seriously though when you think about how superficial the world is becoming… its pretty damn sad….
    -Notice I say MOST guys… not all yeah? 😉
    About mind fucking…
    Not all women know how to mindfuck… if we did I think we’d OWN the world…and instead of men (on average) making more money in EVERY profession in the world safe for prostitution.. it would be the other way around.
    I think a smart man… a deep man… would probably see right through the superficial-ness of this whole mind-fucking thing…Like seriously..WHY BOTHER?
    This Ericka chic obviously just wanted to get to knw ya…
    But God FORBID the likes of her saying something straight down the line like,
    “Truth be told… I think your blog is cool and would like to hang out with you to get to know you better… If that’s cool with ya”?
    or…
    “I would like to get to knw you better to see what goes on in the head of someone who blogs every day and can achieve blogger of the year title…?”
    But OH—NooOoooo! That would look so UNCOOL… SO not smooth… 😉
    But straight down the line baby… that’s how I like it.. and that’s how it should be…

  21. I reckon Kenny’s ‘Mindfuck’ is the same as ‘kok teasing’. But I think u r still mind suck to Singapore girl. Seriously, in Singapore, the XX equivalent aplenty and are like laohan lonkang fish that breeds in shitty canals. Dont eat them. And Julie like to play see no touch, but if you are clever, no see can touch. Itch!!!

  22. Oh… and for someone to be straight up like that… it takes a whole lot of confidence..
    and I dunno bout you… but I find that kind of confidence.. bordering on arrogance (BUT NOT QUITE THERE YET) very sexy… 😉

  23. LOL i seriously do not believe how much you rate what ericka did to you. In all fairness i think what happened was just an exercise and if you think that was a good “mindfucking” boy oh boy you ain’t seen nothin yet. I think it is fair to say Kenny…you been well PUNKD! Hook, line and sinker…with your tongue hangin out the side.
    Ericka is an awesome chick.She may fool you with a bit of trickery but behind the cunning exterior, she just a cute lil persona who craves a bit of attention. but hey don’t all girls love that attention? She sure caught yours..rofl.
    But yeah…Suck it up Princess Kenny, the mind games never end. Lift your game and stop sookin’. Real men don’t get PUNKD like dat.

  24. Hoochie, that’s called POSE. Some people looks good with their face straight, some people looks good with their pants down. You can choose to flash your nipples at the camera if you want, or stick your middle finger in the camera as a show of respect to those taking pictures of you.
    Trust me. It’s cool if you stick your middle finger out to a personnel who stops you and check your driving license.

  25. honestly, i will go for xiaxue if i were a guy.
    ericka not very pretty lar. her face is covered with her long fringe and makes her look slutty. and her eyebrows. i guess too many ppl have commented on it, no?
    shoot me, but xiaxue looks sweet in that pic with kenny.

  26. addict, I’ll choose Nicole. 😉
    Thenameis, you suck cock. I’m truly sorry if I offended you, but this is a free world.
    Bob, what kinda attitude is that? You’re such a fucking travesty to the human race.
    wingz + OBSERVATORY, noooo! A cockteaser uses sex to get what she wants. A mindfucker say things that may not necessarily be sexual to get what she wants. 😉 Very subtle but important difference.
    terry, heh. Be careful of girls who know how to play with men’s natural instinct to protect.
    H, everybody loves a bit of ego-stroking. I don’t see there’s a problem with that.
    hamsap, that’s what I’m gonna do to your girlfriend.
    John + Ericka, oi you two! Why use my blog to talk to each other? Your company’s intercom system dieded ah? 🙂
    Hg, you MODEL! 😉
    LeFire, my sentiements EXACTLY.
    raining-noodles, its not so much her looks eventhough she does look pretty hot. It’s more of her confident personality and the words she say. Remember I’ve only known her for 15 minutes before I got mindfucked.
    Ninja, heyyyyyyy… nice to see you here again. 🙂 Anyway, Nicole does mindfuck too. She loves playing up on my guilt factor if I don’t buy her the shoes she wanted. I’m sure most girls do that to their boyfriends! And you’re right, I’m generalising women by omitting the word ‘most’. I’m writing a blog, not a political thesis.
    b34r, sooking? Do I look like I’m complaining? I’m lovin’ it.
    Kurt, your comments ALWAYS make my day! HAHAHAHAHAA

  27. I said before that I think you’re a gaffe magnet. Now I know what you really are – you are a mindfuck magnet. Must be that bashful voice of yours..

  28. Regarding the side pose… Personally, I think it is actually the mark of someone who has trained to look good in front of a camera, and WILL look good.
    You see, a major proportion of what makes a face good looking is symmetry. Don’t believe me, go grab a fashion mag, select a good-looker that is looking straight at you, draw a vertical line down his/her face, and measure the distance from the center of the face for all the features.
    Eyes, corners of lips and ears… they all are equidistant from the vertical centerline of the face. People do this instinctively and amazingly quickly. Why? Symmetry indicates health, as development of the face was not stunted by disease nor genetic flaws. We evolved to like symmetry.
    From here on, I move from actual research to personal guesswork. Not everyone’s a model who has flawlessly symmetrical features. Most of us have minor imperfections. By taking a side pose, or with hair covering one side, one effectively prevents people from making that snap comparison.
    Hence, people will judge instead based on the features (eg. good skin, lack of facial disfigurement, youth) from one side alone. Furthermore, I think that we automatically fill in the other (hidden) side of the face from the side that we see, again another hardcoded thing we evolved. There is even a section of brain dedicated to recognising faces.
    Of course, it is ridiculous to think that every side-poser pauses to think about “I will look more better if I pose sideways because of symmetry blah, blah, blah.” But people do note that they look GOOD in a mirror when seen at an angle with one side of the face obscured, and hence (I think at least) that is why they prefer to be photographed that way.

  29. I’ve got to agree with you 100% on girls and their “mindfuck”ing skills.
    However, some girls have got not a flipping clue they’re using their “mindfuck”ing skills… those are actually more “pro” than those who knows they have the advantage. I’ve experience it. *shrugs* Damn me and my male stupidity.

  30. “…has a black sheep growing above her eyes…”
    is this why ur border is full of sheep? hahahaa… u r damn funny laa..
    i totally agreed with Colin…sometimes gurls just mindfucking without realizing it… thats including me (Q-Q) =P
    those who knows how to mindfuck others and using it as an advantage, u can tell one… or perhaps,other gurls can tell it for u… ehhehee

  31. I think she looks fine actually… and more importantly, fun to be with. But what does she actually want? If she’s got a BF, what does she want from you, Kenny? Just friends? Or to get to know a famous personnel?

  32. dude, ain’t you supposed to moderate ? some pretty rude shits in here,
    you are just lonely, go visit miss five fingers for pleasure,

  33. she’s pretty hot actually. great confidence she has. just enjoy it. nothing better than the favours of lovely girls.

  34. I think Kenny likes this girl..”I woke up thinking about Ericka, I shat thinking about Ericka, I went to work thinking about Ericka and I went to bed thinking about Ericka”…wo hoh big boy, you’re in trouble.

  35. Julie is HOT… while xiaxue…. NAH!!! i never find her pretty… never find her hot…
    But Julie is.. WOAH!!..
    but then.. if u want to get it on with her… i don’t think u would post her pic in anyway….

  36. my point of view is, don’t get too involved my friend… she’s somewhat using you, and believe me… i know…

  37. Amen to the fact that girls are evil, and we guys are suckas for that. Amen indeed. And yet they’re like drugs to us guys – we know they’re dangerous, yet they make us feel so good that we can’t get enough of ’em.

  38. Finally kenny met the slut from st3. Be careful man, she will empty your wallet with her pushy mindfucked talk. goodluck.

  39. god, this girl looks hideous, who does she think she is to be able to pull off that repulsive “sexy” look in every picture? She sort of reminds me of Jerry of Tom and Jerry. Gotta work on her ugly eyebrows too. I think Xiaxue although not beautiful herself, can beat down your little Julie friend by a few millions in looks. Julie’s just.. ew.

  40. lol, all the mindfuck thing = fake one la, she prolly knew kenny wud write her in his blog then use this opportunity to expose herself so she can be “famous” but too bad…things went wrong for her i guess wakaka, social climber -> fuck off

  41. Hah! Sorry to tell you this, Kenny, but I know this girl. X St Theresian and definately not good news. Btw, did she tell you she was “attached” or MARRIED??? Coz some of us know the truth. Godspeed, Kenny.

  42. identity crisis, yea I know she’s married. And I know she is quite unpopular with the people from her past. But that’s ok. She can live whatever kind of life she wanna live. At the end of the day, she’s still my friend.

  43. What are you talking about. She’s smokin’. Kuching definately has some fine felines, eh?
    Not just how she looks, but also due to a healthy dose of confidence and a sprinkle of naughtyness. At least thats what I got from the pics and conversation.
    Wonder how her hubby looks like…

  44. Kenny, ego-stroking: do it at your own personal time, no need to broadcast to anyone…and aiyooo…find a better gal la if you wanna boast your “babe-magnetism”…I find this post lame.
    No more than a “subtle” way to tell people that gals hit on you. I am not saying that they do or dont but you might want to rewrite this blog into something shorter like so:-
    “Hey, I think this gal is hitting on me, but at the end of the day I didn’t get some, so I’ll stroke my penis while I write this blog, looking at all the weird and ugly poses of this Erik guy, mm oh, gal. I’ll tell people I wasnt really head over heels for her but trully I am. After 15 minutes I wanted to screw her so bad. Oh well, she doesn’t seem interested in getting fucked by me, so I think I’ll tell people we’re good friends only.”
    Kenny, what you see as mindfuck was just a girl flirting with just about anybody. Girls flirt everyday, but doesn’t mean everyone has equal chance of getting in bed with her. The “I am married with 2 kids”, she was just testing to see what an idiot you are.

  45. My sis altered the saying ‘Hell hath no fury for a woman scorned’ to ‘Hell hath no fury for a woman PMS-ing’ so true O 🙂

  46. kenny, i m 37 and still single, i love your blog so much they are just like my daily must read one although i know your blog pay u for people to read, by the way among the 3 girls, Xiaxue, Ericka, and me, who would you choose?

  47. not for nothing, the mullahs keep their women under wraps,
    and wise men travel under the wraps of radar,
    kenny boy, do not go extolling with your might unwrapped,
    for this julie vamp is sent to pull your rug under.

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