This is it. This is the point of no return.
January 25, 2005
Dear Gary and Julie Jacobs:
Re: Resignation as Software Engineer
It is with great sorrow that I hereby tender my resignation to you. I wish to inform you that my last date of employment will be Friday, 25th February 2005.
I had hoped that this would come under more favourable circumstances. Unfortunately, my father is battling Stage IV kidney cancer. As one of his two sons, I feel that it is my obligation to be by his side. I have carefully thought this over, and decided that it is best for me to move back to my hometown in Malaysia where I can be with him.
I appreciate having the opportunity of being a member of Spectra Engineering. It is my first formal job out of University and I am proud to say that it has brought out the best in me. To say that I have learnt a lot here is an understatement. When the time comes, it will be very difficult for me to leave this big family. I thoroughly enjoyed my experience working here, and I hope that the feeling is mutual.
I should have plenty of time to complete my ongoing projects, and turn over the position to my replacement. I will also discuss with you personally to plan a smooth and seamless transition.
I look forward to being able to work with you once again.
Till then, I wish your company continued success.
I am leaving my comfortable RM9000 a month job, my group of friends in this wonderful city called Perth, and above all else my beautiful girlfriend… to go back to Kuching. Someone please tell me I’m not insane.
I think one ends up doing what one feels in the deepest recesses of our hearts, is right. That’s all that counts.
I’d be lying if i said i knew how you feel right now, but i think you should know that what you’re doing is very, very noble.
I salute you, and lots of luck to you, and your family.
I really do admire you for what you have done and are doing….which I think you did for the best. So sorry to hear abt your dad….hope he will be just fine.
It’s a big and bold move. All the best to you and your family.
You are not insane.
i am turning quite abusive aren’t i?
although i would like to express that i deeply sympathize tht u will no longer be dwelling in the land of koalas and leaving all tht u have come to know and love behind *am rubbing it in*, i am secretly rejoicing tht u’re coming back despite the conditions and reason u’re doing it for.
what can i say, kuching is lacking good company these days, and so you’ll have to do til i find someone better =)
u’r not insane. u’r a good son. anyway if u come bck i’ll get 2 bug u mo often. *grins*
There is No merit in self-sacrifice. For one thing it is impossible. The self grow and develops and cannot be annihilated. You must not expect to be â€œperfectâ€ â€“ a state of fulfillment beyond which there is no further growth, and no such state exists.
Self-sacrifice usually means throwing the â€œburdenâ€ of yourself upon someone else and making it their responsibility.
A child who says, â€œI gave up my life for my parents and devoted my life to their careâ€ means â€œI was afraid to live my own life, and afraid to let them live theirs. And is so â€˜giving upâ€™ my life I gain the life I wanted.â€
Love does not demand sacrifice. You do not help your children by keeping them chain to you, but you do not help your parents either by encouraging their sense of helplessness.
The natural force of love is everywhere within you, and the normal methods of communication are always meant to bring you in contact with fellow creatures.
There is no basic difference between the love of a child for a parent or vice versa, a wife for a husband, a brother for a sister. There are only various expressions and characteristics of love, and all love affirms. There are many errors frequently committed in the name of love.
No one dies under any circumstances that are not prepared to die. Even animals sense their dying ahead of time and on that level man or woman is no different.
Many more human beings are aware of their impending deaths than is generally known. It seems, perhaps, easier to have no conscious idea of the year or time that death might occur. Unconsciously of course each man and woman knows, and yet hides the knowledge.
Life and death are but two faces of your eternal, ever changing existence, however. Feel and appreciate the joy of your own being. Many live into their nineties without ever appreciating to that extent the beauty of their being.
You have lived before, and will again, and your new life, in your terms, springs out of the old, and is growing in the old and contained within it as the seed is already contained within the flower.
you’re all your dad need to move on. you’re never regret what you’ve done for him. i bet he is proud to have a son like you. cherish the moments you have with him.
Naomi – You’ve just made me realised that I’m not making a crazy decision.
Izuan – Well wishes from people I’ve never met means a million to me.
Justina – Thanks for having faith in my decision.
Grace – Glad to have someone confirming that I’m not insane. 🙂
Kim – I feel used.
Irene – I feel used by you too. 😉
Chrissie – That’s *exactly* what I will do.
Anonymous – You write with such elegance, indirectly addressing my situation without trying to provide an impossible solution. Thank you. My decision to return to be with my father is not exactly self-sacrifice. I have all the time, he does not. Jobs can be replaced, and Perth is always there if I want to return. But I have only one father. If he’s ready to start his new life, then I am ready for it. But I would want to say my goodbyes first before he continues to live in my memory forever.
dear kenny, you are most definitely not crazy. at the end of your life, you don’t want your life and achievements to read like some CV – you want to be able all the memories and important life-changing details. i guess we all find ourselves in situations we have no choice but to go with and this is your time. nonetheless,i think it’s really brave what you’re doing, and honestly think they’ll respect your decision all the more. you’re not crazy dude 🙂
that’s a very brave decision. To leave something that could have guaranteed the security for the rest of your life, wow. you’re not insane, for you’ve made this decision with the deepest love and care for your family. and your family needs you at times like these. and you’re there. for that, i salute you.
Let’s face it, you don’t really have a choice…but goosh, do you really have to be so dramatic in your resignation letter? I would have a impassive yet straightforward version would have done quite nicely.
Follow your heart!! *Bravo*
Follow your heart!! *Bravo*
MY GOD ! ! !
What the h*** were you thinking ???
i’ll never get that salary in my lifetime ! ! !
make sure u go back to perth n work der, get together wit ya gf..dont just stay in this lame country. if it was me, no no leaving a 9k job, a bunch of frenz, lovely gf…9k is alot.. u gotta appreciate that…
From what i see, u r doing the right thing….
nothing beats accompanying your parents when they are critically ill….
Perhaps it is time to lock the meglomaniacs of the world out of our economy for good. Making sure that such vile creatures cannot even step into our lives would be a good way of protecting our community, however if such vile maggots think it should be their free will to be such creatures perhaps they can stay and sukk dick for their country or something.