Keeping the sparks alive in a relationship can be difficult, especially if you can't find the matches.
Believe me, I've been in a long-term relationship before myself. When you're committed yourself for such a long time, there comes a point when we no longer feel the need to impress each other anymore.
Girls stop wearing make-up and contact lenses. Out goes the pretty little pink dress and in comes the baggy tracksuit pants.
Guys aren't any better.
After commiting for so long, there must come a point in a relationship when a guy asked himself, "Who the hell is this girl and what does she want from me!?"
The thing is, in this world where people have priorities, responsibilities and multiple commitments, it is inevitable relationships do go stale after a while and routine tends to get a little bit boring. But it doesn't have to remain that way.
The trick is to break out of the routine and do something out of the ordinary.
A holiday getaway together always works. It's so cheap to travel to many places now. And besides, it could save your relationship. When you're in a new place and new environment, you tend to learn new things about each other that you never knew.
Relationships also go stale if couples spend too much time together. Stop being so possessive and give each other some space.
Most guys I know have big aspirations when it comes to building their career or achieving some life-long dreams. Pursuing these dreams require what we call "man time".
Girls are not allowed during "man time". But give your guy some "man time" to pursue his personal goals and trust me, he'll appreciate it and in return reward you with some "sexy time".
Meanwhile, learn a new skill or pick up a hobby yourself. Can't possibly leave yourself out of the rat race too right?
But above all else, there's nothing more important than telling your guy (or girl) "I love you". Constantly.
It's incredible how these three simple words get taken for granted so quick into a relationship. Us guys are especially to blame, because we think that words like these are not really neccessary since it's understood.
Hey, even I used to think that way in my previous relationship.
And then I broke up.
A friend of mine once told me that the 'spark' in a relationship could only remain alive if you put in the effort.
Without effort, without sincerity, without care, there is nothing.
I couldn't agree more.
Of course, there are thousands of other ways couples keep the sparks and romance in their relationship alive. Nicole has some tips for the guys too.
What have you or your partner done to keep the sparks alive in a long-term relationship?
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