eh, babes, there's a GREAT DEAL OF DIFFERENCE between arrogance and confidence ler.

u need a good dose of reality check. doh

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Seena lot of guys who tries hard to pursue girls.

Though it depends on the girl's personality, some girls dislike that, others loved it.

To make it simple, girls who usually gets attention from guys wouldnt feel that you're special if you tries hard to pursue her, as that's what she always gets. Unless you can make her feel that you're unique, then it's a meaningless attempt.

Personally, just let time come, maybe, or maybe not, you'll find one that really suits you and who's really meant for you.

well... nice guys do really finish last.. and i bet tats true... haha... hope there's some ego in those hugo XY fragrance...

hmmm..i know this guy who is going after a real hot and pretty lady ..
it have been 6 months now...and he is still doing it..
he sent her home, pick her to work from her house, take her out for meal from her house..
yeah everything connected to the house because that girl is living with her boyfriend..
I think that this guy is out his mind....

fr personal experience, it's true that nice guys finish last. girls never go for nice guys, but they prefer guys who can give them some excitement in life.

I don't know any girl who go through extreme lengths to pursue a guy too arrogant for his own good, but I knew a girl who go through extreme lengths to pursue a guy until it wasn't healthy for her.

Ever heard of someone who dreams fantasies of being with someone, and actually live it and tell people about it?! And not just one or two. Millions! (Well, not that many actually, but it was a great amount!)

She told everyone she had dates with him, went to the movies with him, had their first kiss blablabla... when it never actually happened. The guy was never into her in the first place.

She made up stories like how he wouldn't pay for her meals or movie ticket like some stingy bastard. Like how he "wanted" her be didn't want to be with her. Loads of mumbo jumbo.

We don't know how she got into such an obsession. The days she claimed to have dates with him, he was out with friends!

I think there's word for it. It's called erotomania.

Poor guy. All her friends thought he was the bad guy coz he sounded so lukewarm towards her. And stingy. If only they knew the truth.

I think girls should stick with loving with their hearts. Coz when they start loving with their heads, they might suffer from a rare dilusional disorder.

p/s: Last I heard, the girl was dating a humble IT guy. I hope she's okay now.

hehe~ yeah, me. i've tried that, been very dumbass during those immature time. She ain really hot, but i really dunno wad hook me up onto her. that's during form 4.

i bought some presents for her during a trip to kl, and since i can't drive, i literally walked a long distance to her house, during bright sunny noon time. /swt/

told my friend to help me buy cake and bring to school on her birthday, end up they sing the song during class time, which i'm not the same class as her. /waste of money T__T/

wrote letters to her weekly, which she did reply, thank god. and fold those tiny little stars (*which she said she still keeps them, doh~!) everyday. EVERY SINGLE FREAKING DAY (except on weekends :P)

yeah, months, and nearly til the end of form 4, she suddenly poop out and was holding the hand of a guy from her class, OUT OF NO WHERE!!!

all my friends are sad for me, even sing jay's "silence" at the canteen for me. lol~ my brathers!!!!!

gg for me. ~\./~

well, they lasted for 2 weeks. but i lost the interest on her, and lost the confidence in myself too. no more chasing gals anymoar (*actually coz i knew lil` chicks XD)

somehow i have to agree.
i NEED an alpha male.

coz i jus want to be meek and loving and dominated.

give it to me bay beeee!

When I was very young (mid teens), I went for boys who were bad/popular.

At 19 I hooked up with the almost perfect guy who's nice, sincere, humble, romantic, caring and gives in to my every whim (within reason of course) - kenny's words describes my husband perfectly.

And he has gotten better in the 6 years ++ we've been together. He cooks (cooks better than me), cleans, massages, goes shopping and grocery shopping with me, gives a mean bear hug, my personal chaffeur, loves kids, listens to my constant talking, surprises me occasionally, laughs with me, etc etc.

Almost perfect cos he's not a rich doctor so I no need to work. Dammit! But you can't have everything.

Seriously that's not important. What's important is that we're best friends, love each other and are content.

So why bother with a "bad" guy unless you're playing, than that's a whole different matter altogether. Stick with the nice guys and a happy ending.

top 5 hahahah cool n this is my first comment here. tattoo very fancy? i had some too but no girls fancy me. having good work does have a good future for ur gal but is tat wat she wans? it all depends on wat kind of gals we're dating mate... anyway, nice try on the blog!

Ooops i miss the 1 in front.... supposed to be top 15!

i think sheikh muzaffar will be much better at modelling hugo new fragrance with nicole compared to you...

there is no such thing at love at first sight FIRSTLY!! How can you fall in love straight away??

Maybe for guys... Cause that's when guys check the girls out, she's hot " HELL YEAH I'M IN LOVE!!" But for girls, it's always, slowly slowly get along first, then know each other and story goes on start developing feelings...

It's still the heart that counts... And if you really did met someone who's damn hot with a damn good heart and you fell in love right away, you better buy jackpot, TOTO, 4D, 3D cause that's your ultimate lucky day...

And being in college seeing all those hot and rich guys... PFAAAH!!! All suck cock attitude, ego like hell, and only think about themselves!!! That's why everyone says cute guys have no heart...

Perhaps if you really have heart, maybe, someday... You'll get what you want... So, it's still hearts!! (and hell yeah I have XX chromosomes in my DNA)

There's a huge difference between arrogance and confidence.

As a girl, I cannot deny that bad boys have this undeniable appeal, but they're only in my list of "Guys I wouldn't mind being in bed with and will never happen EVER because they're eye candy not worth the pain" and there are those guys who work their asses of to get your attention because they love you.

I think what nice guys need to be is just to try play the field as in not to try too hard. Girls in general like to be intrigued. Make girls guess (in a good way), it drives them absolutely crazy. I've seen too many nice guys try to hard and lose the girl because he verged on 'stalker' status.

I sgree with Jing Yi. In the end, we will marry for nice guys or forever regret that we didn't. Bad boys are nice only for flings, so good guys don't give up yet, someone worthy of your sensitivity and caring will come along eventually.

Girls always complain that the hot, cute, rich, egoistic guys have suck arse attitudes and fail at caring. Yet they always choose the hot, cute, rich, egoistic guys.

Ironic? Or simply being a hypocrite?

well wht kenny said is really true.. girl I normally meet always fall in love with guys who never appreshade their love.. most of them even love those useless guys for years.. although they have broke up for month even years.. for wht?!! never understand them.. maybe is because they can forget thier ego attitude.. so in this world ALL GUYS MUST BE EGO MAN.. thn every guys wont have girls rejecting guys.. rite? haha!!

how much hugo pay you?

"Good guys never win" is more apt. I couldn't agree more. When you're in highschool, you see all the notorious gangsters have the hottest chicks. The popular ones. The model student. The book worms. All of them throw themselves on the gangsters and wannabe gangsters. Its appalling. Whereas us nice guys stand in the sidelines and be the "confidant" of said girls when they get dumped by said bad boys with a snowball's chance in hell to ever date them.

Its quite sad really. So near yet so far. She's within arm's reach but yet, not close enough to touch. Why? Cuz i'm a good guy. :(

Oh well...the bad guys end up as car mechanics and char kuey teow seller who don't appeal to girls as perfect husbands, and that's when the good guys marry them. So all's right with the world.....i think?

There's no perfection in this world. It requires one to put down one's selfishness in order to care for another truly and sincerely, but selfishness is the prime requirement to generate the arrogance and "bad boy" type of personality where their own "individualism" (selfishness repackaged) makes them seemingly unique in this world of bland faces.

Arrogant and egoistic male attracts women because the majority of Asian women have yet to get onto the "power-women" bandwagon, and having hailed from Asia, where patriachal communities is the norm for god knows how many milleniums, I'd say the inherent need to be dominated is closer to a genetic stain than an actual need.

Let's face it - a lot of women are more comfortable being in the submissive role, and most of them DON'T (read - don't, not can't) want to manage themselves at all. Therefore these women seek out men who are selfish and arrogant (read - fierce) to dominate them, tell them what to do and basically lead them in life.

One other reason is that sometimes, in this cut-throat society, one must have a certain degree of selfishness to survive. They call it self-preservation nowadays. Men with arrogance often give the impression that he is fearless and one step above the churning waste that makes up our society, and thus be able to "protect" the women that they are with. Whether they actually do so in times of need is another issue though.

In conclusion, for all the above traits, women generally grow out of this confused phase of not knowing what is good for them and only buying the hype of an arrogant egoist male by the age of... say, 28-35, some coming to womenhood faster than others, while some (which we call aunties) living in the limbo of childishness for the rest of their lives. Sad aint it? Hey, at least most of these "women" children have "men" children counterparts, so I guess if they manage to hook up together, they truly deserve each other!

And who knows, maybe that's what bring happiness to them?

Pfft... Sif Nice Guys Finished Last. They don't even get to finish the damm race at all. You know why? In the middle of the race, their hearts shattered into million pieces because their gf left them for bad boys.

I am speaking not just from my personal experience, but from the experience of ALL my guy friends. Kinda makes me thing that I'm hanging out with the wrong bunch of losers but we're not. We're really nice and sweet and most importantly we loved our gf. So dumb and retarded right?

I had this really hot chick. Things were going on really well. She hinted that she likes me but not strong enough to become her bf. SO guess what I did as a manipulated puppy? I made 500stars in a beautiful bottle, learnt to cook Thai food, walk 10hrs a day searching for the perfect present to match her beatific eyes, make dong-quai soup for her when she has period, cook porridge for her when she's sick, sing songs for her when she's sad etc. Only to know she's been telling her friends how sick am i but yet she's acting all sweet and happy in front of me!!! She went out with other guys that time and don't let me go out with my girl friends then.

Anyways, that's the past. My experience taught me that courting girls is like fishing. Must pull and also push. Keep them on their toes. Do romantic stuff but not always. Let them know that you will leave them if they cheated on you. But tell them that you will stay indefinately, if they continue to love you.

All the best to my mates who have been badly decapitated in the love game.

Anyways, I have a great gf now. The trick is really stay confident. A little arrogance is an admirable trait. But you got to link it to humour as well. Always lead her and advise her. Girls don't want a wussy kid who just tags and do whatever she wishes. They too wants some challenges. Give it to them and show them who's the man.

Lastly, always trust, cherish and respect one antoher.

To quote wolfx:

Oh well...the bad guys end up as car mechanics and char kuey teow seller who don't appeal to girls as perfect husbands, and that's when the good guys marry them. So all's right with the world.....i think?

So the good guys are basically marrying...leftovers?

but kenny is also RICH !!!!

I agree with your point that chicks dig egoistic men. But the fact is, there are many circumstances when it comes to courtship. But most of all, egoistic-men wins gentle-men.
'Boast'em all to get'em all!'

http://outpostnine.com/editorials/niceguy.html

Read this,i totally agree with that guy.Girls always have fun with the jerks,then settle down only when they're older.

The best part? Nice guys happily accept them into their lives because we've been deprived of their attention for a long time.Basically the arrogant tards have their fun,then you get the leftovers.(Not to mention the emotional baggage)

PS:I KNOW most people have perfectly normal relationships based on mutual trust/respect,the above's just my personal opinion based on my life experience.

the truth is
no ladies would prefer goody two shoes men as boyfriends...
why? goody two shoes are no fun at all! we are not mysterious enough, not egoistical enough, not man enough, not bad ass enough be it character wise or physical wise and to sum it all, whatever bad and unpredictable also not enough! End of story! So lads (in this case, all type of nerds, as they would've called us) this is THE farking truth and no amount of Kisah Benar would do justice to this!

But the world is fair! Poetic justice! Normally, all these miscreants that they lose their body and soul for would turn out to be lousy husband/father material! And so, the meek shall inherit the Earth! Heh...as the saying goes...

But i am equally disturbed at this point of time, leftovers ye said? arrrgghhh...blimey...pretty bad business then i say!

The solution to the overwhelming amount of 'leftovers' in the market is...get a nubile virgin wife from overseas.

You know extreme lengths to impress a girl is too tough and may not yield results.

At the end of the spectrum are less palatable but effective methods, try rape, psychological condition post kidnapping.

Go for the ah beng if u're looking for a fling.
Give me a nice and shy guy anytime, anywhere!

huhu... i don like egoistic guys.. i have a classmate that is soooooo full of it... he luvs to show of his "brilliant" tez scores by holding it up in class and walking from table to table in a pathetic attempt to show off... wth i don even know who the heck is he trying to impress here... stupid guy acts like a 7 year old... and thats not even a fraction of wad he does... we'r all 17 btw....
i get creeped out by the fact that this ego freak is constantly close to my gal-pal... fuhh...

kenny, most of the ego type not so good le.. don pray-pray ah....

Hm, well... I don't actually like arrogant guys (with the exception of Dr. House, just because everyone loves his humour and jokes. Oh and that oh-so-memorable sarcasm he's famous for. *cough* Getting off track here. Anyway...) and I really do prefer the nice, sweet type who isn't going all out to be "gangsta" or whatever the hell social norm seems acceptable these days.

Perhaps the female mind is initially attracted to the "bad boy" type because... Well, maybe he's new. Different. Someone she's never really been around or is a type of person she's not used to. I guess it may just be a matter of time until: a) She finally opens her eyes to the fact that he is a jerk and/or the absolute worst guy for her. Or b) she turns out to be the dominant one and his whole "bad boy" persona dissipates.

Hm... I honestly don't know. Go figure, I guess. I would definitely go for the sincere, sweet, humble type. Out of all the guys I've had a crush on, only one was the arrogant and egotistical type. Once I got the stardust out of my eyes, I saw that he was a complete and utter idiot. So yeah...

well, talking about ego-ness. my best friend is dating one of the most ego amn in the world!!!im not exaggerating. let me tell you what he does n you guys be the judges. she used to be a cheerful, friendly girl with tonnes of guy friends. but ever since she's with her, she has turned into a whiny, guy-friend-less, sticks to her bf 24/7, type of girl. sigh...

he controls her. dont allow her to pick up strangers calls (calls that she didnt save on her phone), dont allow her to wear tops besides t-shirt (as he said other tops are too exposed -.-), dont allow her to go out with her friends if there are guys in that gang, needs to get his approval for basically everything, such as checking mail, online (msn), go out with sisters!!!it's really everything right?

so, why would someone so pretty, so popular will fall for this guy? she was once in that situation. choosing btw the nerdy IT guy and over-confident rock star. she chose the nerdy one but i guess the nerdy one is one egoistic ****** that i've ever known. it's hard for me to see her cries every single day even for one small minor mistake like not replying his sms in 3 mins time!!!wtf

Yeah...Quite true..

Hrmm. Damn alot of Hugo to give out.

Aiya, wait for Hugo XXX la.

It's the 21st Century for god knows what sake. Ego doesn't work anymore. Try being all ego and arrogant to a career lady, prepare for getting dump or divorce.

Hahaha... this topic again. This is going to be quite a stormy one.

You're on to something here Kenny. Here's my 2 sen.

Anyone, regardless of gender, who says that they would be attracted to people who are "nice", "humble", "caring", "sweet", "responsible" etc are merely saying so because that's the proper thing to say.

After all, most of us are very polite no?

I mean we might find some other shallower things to be more attractive like physical beauty and other showier things but most people would never admit to being shallow.

The truth is quite simple. Attraction has NOTHING to do with being good or nice or caring or any of that. Maybe in the long run those things count but in the initial phase of meeting someone, those things mean nothing.

Don't believe it? Think again and think very, very hard.

You could be the nicest, sweetest, most responsible person in the world but if you go head to head with someone more socially adept and/or better looking and/or is uber confident to the point of arrogance, you will LOSE. Guarantee.

Don't believe it? Go and think about all our good friends who are nice, caring, humble etc who are still SINGLE and can't get a date to save their own lives.

It's not because they are not nice, it's because they are not ATTRACTIVE. It's two totally different things.

So, boys and girls if your friends advise you to be "nice" if you want to attract someone, don't do it. it's just a waste of time. Really.

In order to attract someone, the object is to be attractive, not to be nice.

If it was just about being "nice", then why do so many assholes, jerks and womanising bastards get women to sleep with them? Why do so many people choose to stay in bad relationships? Why do some many people who are otherwise nice, humble, caring etc are regularly ignored and dumped and doomed to permanent bachelorhood/spinsterhood?

A person's character and a person's attractiveness has NOTHING to do with each other. They are two SEPARATE and DIFFERENT things.

This applies to all, regardless of gender.

This is the truth. Think about it. It might save you a lot of unnecessary heartache...

very simple, when most of girls on young playful age, always look for arrogant bad guys,
when coming on age 25~30, wish to settle down their live, always look for sincere, humble, nice guys to become their husband.

Most women hold onto hopes that their OVER egoistic man that they love will change someday. Maybe some will but most won't.Tolerating ego is not liking ego.

(Hi Kenny. How are you? Just here to say that we really enjoy your recent postings.)

Oh, my response to this good-guys-finish-last conundrum is quite simple. If you want something/someone, just ask for it, if first you don't succeed, keep on asking... something/someone will finally give. Confidence is the person who does not know when to stop asking even when the odds are stacked against him (yup, there is a fine line between being an annoying stalker and a fighter). Arrogance is keeping silent and thinking everything will come to you. Sadly, a lot of self-dubbed good guys don't do a lot of "asking".

Sniff...2x
Good guys can never win...
Been there done tat. But being a good guy trying to be bad, thats a reli hard thing to do,u know..knowing that only the badboys get the pretty n hot chicks.Damn!! U gotta look badder,meaner,more masculine n think a lot lesser with the brain,n nore with the d*ck..
All because the goodguys(losers) wanna have the same values the badboys have....

I've had the whole 1year trying to get that sexy,hot,steamy lady(my dreamgirl lah)...!trying my best being the Cool badguy n yeah, sumhow it worked!! n when it all seemed to get goin' just pretty fine, i got back to my own self, being that 'loser' trying to impress the Queen of my Heart 24/7..
Hmm.....just after that 1 filthy,hard rockin' year,she got bored of me, knowing all the past year i had been a 'fluke'. a Poser! a real Loser of the Year.....
In the end i got dumped over a genuine Hardass Badboy!!!

Why does the world have to be so damn hard to live in?????? Where's Jessica Alba when u need her the most?? Sniff...sniff...:(

Is It True That Girls Fall In Love With Their Hearts And Guys Fall In Love With Their Eyes?

Unfortunately, that’s a resounding YES!

My good friend from school had (past tense..) a boyfriend who is the epitome of I-am-oh-so-great-and-you-all-should-loveeee-me type of guy. He was her breathing Adonis, the most gorgeous guy in the world, but to us, he is as sexy as a camel with an oversized, egotistical hump. For simplicity sake, I will just label the egotistic guy as He, with a capital H.

When they got together some time back, some of my other friends gave their relationship a 2-month expiry date. These self-proclaimed sooth-sayers were very confident of their dire prediction, knowing the type of guy that He is and the colossal ego that He has. “Confirm won’t last, guarantee plus chop,” as they shake their heads in disapproval.

When they broke up (He initiated it), He cited some really silly reasons for his decision.

He claimed that she was not girly enough for him (and not fragile enough to feed his manly oversized ego I bet). Yes, an obvious but unfortunate example of guys falling in love with solely their eyes. He said that she didn’t wear enough skirts, she didn’t go shopping like other girly girls, she didn’t do this, she didn’t do that… He self-righteously felt that their relationship won’t work cause of her, and her un-girliness.

When she pleaded with him, not wanting to believe that this is the actual reason for the breakup, he then went on to say that “I only say these things so that you will hate me and forget me. We’re not meant to be.” Oh, that self-righteous, egotistical cow! No, I meant camel!!! The rest of us felt like taking a big, fat needle to prick his colossal ego then.

And till today, some 3 months later, she still can’t forget him. As for us, we can’t forget him too, thanks to his astronomical ego and novel breaking-up excuses.

So, indeed, we girls don’t fall in love with our brains. We fall in love with our hearts. And I guess that’s the beauty of being in love. It’s true that many girls fall for the wrong guys, thanks to the misbehaving heart, but if we fall in love with our brains, the normal average guys wouldn’t stand a chance too! The brain would of course logically make us choose the rich guys (so that we won’t ever have to work), the good-looking ones (so that our children will look oh-so-gorgeous), and the smart ones (produce brainy kids).

In short, there is nothing wrong with falling in love with our hearts. But we have to make sure that we can pick ourselves up again after falling down.

Anyway, love your blog =)

I personally think it all boils down to uhmmm.. what I call "maturity of taste".

Of course high school girls drools over bad boys! We are programmed to do so, the same way high school boy drools over Pamela Andreson. Bad boys are bolder, care about a toe in the world, and hence oozes "confidence" (arrogance), while nice guy, well, too nice to do so, so sticking to admiring the girl from far (why do Guang Liang's songs come to mind?). Who do you think will get more attention?

Should be noted though, that quiet guys are no longer wallpapers. Especially with japanese manga popularizing quiet+"cool" guy (think of ZaiZai from *cough* F4). They are quiet yes. Shy maybe. Bad boys? Nah.. But they ooze charm and again, arrogance (confidence) and dont care a toe about you.

BUT, as girls turn into ladies, our desire changes and matures. Now mystery and arrogance are no longer as intriguing, and hardly a priority. Now we are looking for a stable future and a happily ever after ending. Yes, occasionally we can't help drooling over bad boys, but who do you think we are going to end up with? Most probably the one who gets our father's nod.

Fireworks can't go on forever. I know some girls who love the excitement of being with bad boys. But very few find the security, stability and happiness they crave for. Unless of course, the bad boys are (very rarely) read to commit too. Afterall, commitment-phobia is part of Bad boy package.

So don't get feel sad nice guys. Being rejected a couple of times is not the end of the world. Seriously. Work hard, be successful,and most importantly, be happy with yourself. Then not only YOU are happier, you will also automagically find girls swarming and drooling all over you.

"Nice Guys Do Indeed Finish Last" AND HAVE THE LAST LAUGH ! HO HO HO HO HO HOOOOOOOO

P.s: Bad Boy Robbie disappeared from chart, nice guy Take That took over. Take That, Robbie!

Sign,
lots of wuv,

Barney's wife (Robbie's nemesis)

kenny, you are so right man......high five....

quoting coolsaint:

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very simple, when most of girls on young playful age, always look for arrogant bad guys,
when coming on age 25~30, wish to settle down their live, always look for sincere, humble, nice guys to become their husband
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I'm focusing more towards the later portion of your comment and i would like to comment on that generally.

I watched an episode of House which had a simple and powerful thought provoking question for a patient ( i can't remember which episode exactly ).
The patient he was treating was adamant about his/her love for the partner and swore undying love and him/her being the one. The question goes something along the lines of:

" How do you know that she/he is the one for you? When time is ticking away, its easy to confuse love for someone when actually he/she is either settling for second best OR security."

I do agree with mac's comment for the most part. It mostly boils down to what are you looking for in a person he/she is looking at. Are you looking for someone to be a physically intimate buddy or are you looking for something serious.

its so damn true! im that shy guy you mention, and i always being meself around the girl i like, i be nice, but somehow, the hot popular guys always gets the attention! and yes, my macho looking guy friends always scores the chic easily because they have that oh-so-hot-and-cute-footballer-look thing. as for the other guys, girls would just say, ah-he-is-just-a-sweet-friend. sigh! check out "just a nice guy" on youtube. its pretty much what i want to say.

Ha! Yea, you are right in some ways. And yes, men need to be abit 'ego' to survive, to live their love as well as work lives, it's a nessacity for them. Like my boyfriend, he's egotistical, and he's successful in his business, I love him, and we have been long time together (get what I mean?)But maybe not too egotistical(like Robbie Williams), because in the long run, it's going to give friction to his relationship, think about it, and you will know what I mean.

Dude, you are just getting weirder amd weirder....a bit spiteful, no?

kenny, he's not an astronaut. he's a SPACE FLIGHT PARTICIPANT

Sad, but true that majority of the XX species tend to choose bad boys over nice guys.

WHY do females choose Bad boys/Jerks/Egotistical men over NICE GUYS?! Have these women no brains?! -Simple; the egotistical ones are the LESSER of two evils.

You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a cold bitch."

The biggest problem is that most overly nice guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for females mainly, to gain acceptance and attention, rather than simply for the pleasure of giving. You never know if a nice guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him. Bad Boys are at least straightforward, if they like you, they'll tell it like it is, and they don't take us women on merry go rounds from point A to B to C to D, then back to A, like what a nice guy would do.

Confident, independent and beautiful women find "OVERLY Nice Guys" too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure. Bad Boys are at least, confident, SECURE and they don't play on female sympathy to get their game on.

Overly Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them. Instead of compromising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in", thinking that they're cherishing her, but in truth making a fool out of themselves because I have only 1 word for that, WUSS. THIS is what women DON'T LIKE. We like it when our men take a firm stand on his own ground and challenge us.

Nice Guys often claim that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their love, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful.". JERKS/Bad Boys will AT LEAST be frank about how they feel, and they don't put too much pressure on women by suffocating us with excessive adoration.

Whilst a nice guy will whine and make a woman dive in the mud to salvage his emotions and guilt-trip her into accepting him, a JERK/Bad Boy will get straight to the point, saving us women time & guess work.

Nice guys will complain/beg/whine whenever a woman tries to give them even the most tactful constructive criticism, but JERKS/Bad Boys show that a verbal kick in the nuts is nothing to get shattered over, they will instead aggravate us and make us want to argue back.

The guys who whine excessively about "Women just don't like nice guys!" are spending too much time wallowing in self pity. They are in truth, egotistical INSIDE./CLOSET JERKS, yet they try to mask that by being NICE. JERKS/Bad Boys on the other hand, are egotistical inside AND out. At least these stereotypes aren't playing on hypocrisy and women sympathy.

Guys,you don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant bastard. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

Well kenny, ive heard a lot of the egoIST guys you meant and true indeed, its kind of like a nature built in guys that stimulates that character.
If you asked my girl, she would definately tell you that I am an asshole before we were together. I got to admit it. We guys just have itchy butts getting ready to be whopped by girls. The girls you like, you will be shy around them; girls that likes you, you will act like the whole world doesnt even care she existed. Endless critics, even the way she breaths can be something to joke about. That often drives a girl up civic centre yelling her heart out: "ASSHOLE, CANT YOU TREAT ME ANY BETTER??" I use to have a lot of fun joking around with her, to some extend i m quite over the edge at times.
Seldom do i find her but whenever call her, I will definately get her angry somehow and one time, she actually got soo angry she hung my phone. ouch~! The big balls weighting 1 ton suddenly shrinks to a tiny dot that even a magnifying glass couldnt spot. Well thats not the point. Sometimes, guys with a huge ego needs to get a big slap on the face for them to cherish you. ERM... Why on earth am i giving out this?
And I really do feel the asshole attitude i used to have and sometimes still have can easily attract girls, well kenny, i think we should say, attract attention. To be honest, it attract guys too. "M*ther F*cker, trying to act cool in front of all the girls!"
Haha, it got her 2 years plus to actually made me put down my ego and in return, i have to get through a lot of shit to get her because she becomes the asshole instead. HUMANs are just so damn typical, things you have, you wouldn't wanna cherish it.
Now we are together, this kinnda things still happens, but it has become our way to show our "Hidden" love towards each other.
Guys, still, its our natural instinct to "DIAO GEH"
cheerS~

That girl is me. I had an extreme crush on this brilliant casanova who is now a very good friend.

He is ugly, and he knows it. I don't know if he uses this to his advantage, but I guess he gets sympathy from some silly girls (like me). I am the kind of person who has some standards over who I go out with, but I fell for this guy's HUMONGOUS ego despite his rather undesirable face. So did 40-50 over other girls.

I did everything I could to get his attention. Write him long letters, lend him literature books (cuz both of us were into the arts scene), laugh about women together (he is rather a misogynist suprisingly, so am I, having low respect for nitwits, but I still falled for this lady-killer, and he laughed at the irony of it, me being one of them nitwits then). The biggest thing I done was to profess my love for him, that was the 1st time I had confessed about a crush, (but kena rejected lah) cuz he treated me as a friend. Imagine if he went into full-mode mojo! I bet you not even the most feminist lady would be able to stand his massive ego.

He knows he is smooth. He knows he is good with the girls & is never abashed to admit it. Yet girls still keep falling for this guy who is just out to find that right girl in the end of his dating game. (Which I think is gonna take a long long time, though it is mellowing down)

Me & other guys talk about him and said that if he had the looks of Brad Pitt, he'd be a menace to woman all over the world.

man,u ppl are trying really hard to win that bottle of perfume

i love guys who has confidence,but not guys who are dominant,as if he's the only one who make all the decisions.( i'll fight with him if he dares to be dominant on me..)

i've seen my not-so-close friend(also ex-classmate) who is so obsessed with a guy who is quite arrogant and dominant.they did become a couple,it's terrible when they start quarelling.once,he threw money at her(it nearly smack to my face that time.),another time was when he threw a bag,and slam the door.until the time when they seperate,the girl was even willing to slit her wrist so that he would come back to her..

luckily she was saved.they're still together now.but i certainly hope there won't have anything worse happened more than that.sigh

Wow. We have so much story teller here. Should write a fiction love novel. That bottle of perfume is really a great temptation.xD

You wanna get a girl friend ?

Just drive a Nissan Fairlady Z 350 to college.

Sure 100 of girls line up for you.

;)

Hahahaha.. kenny.. not sure if you're trying to use the read between the lines method. There's a relation between your blog on male ego and the example you gave with the next blog on dumbledore... hahahahaha... nice going... :D.. if anyone of you don't know about it.. google it and see..

i admit i like guys with reasonable amount of confidence and ego. i definitely wont go out with a guy tat feel lowly about himself. guys tat know wat they are doing make me feel safe and directed in a way.

guy with confidence tends to b more outspoken and sociable. they can have their mountain high confidence,ego and arrogance with the whole world around them but they shud not treat their gf in the same manner.
when they act lk they own the world, the gf looked lk a poor timid slave around them ny.
the girl love love best guys with confidence yet treat them with a more gentlemen act and understanding.

i would be best if guy have the confidence, arrogance, ego but yet love their gf with their soft side
*meltz*

I have known from the pass and present dating experiences, my men usually want to impress me for what they've got, like billing the meals take me on the rides and spending vacation times together.

While for my recent experience I’ve known my man to have felt in love with for some years now, and as we women as you mentioned felt in love with our heart and not the brain, I find that I somehow realised I crave for his attentions at almost all the time, wanting him to be a gentlemen to me in everything from open the car door to remember anniversaries all when was the first time's dates.

It makes me feel he is romantic when he does so. I feel that he is a real man when he shows his concern for me, calling just to say, how he misses me etc., Walking like the whole world belongs to him when he is with me~ seriously I feel good to be called hot by his friends.

Awww...Barney!! Mind you Kenny, I'd choose that IT guy!

And I've just got to say that you make a really adorable puppy dog (muahaha)

it was actually years back. like 6-8 yrs. u know I was young. did many stupid things.

I had this crush (erm, let's call him M) for like 4 yrs since I was f2. I was so into him that I actually stalked him for a time in my life. ok not exactly stalk la. but I know where he stay, and I purposely walk the long way back from school. I would miss call his house line just to know if he's online or not. sometimes when Im bored I would just go to the mamak situated right outside his hse for a drink hoping to just catch a glimpse oh him. I would call just to listen to his voice although all he ever said was "uhuh". in a way I was quite thick face la coz I know he's playing game n he's not free to talk. but I just wanna feel his presence by listening to his voice.

was he rich? no. was he smart? no. is he good looking? hrmm. well he have the eyes I love. that ever so charming unforgettable smile. he have the humor. he boast a lot. which is super annoying. he flirts with every girl he knows. but yet I was head over heels him.

sometimes he treats me well. and for those moments I was sky high. but most of the time he just treats me like crap. he knows I like him, I dont know if he feels the same way, but sometimes it felt as if he were taking advantage of the fact that Im obsessed with him. playing hard to get. he treats me like a gf when we're face to face. very sweet and all. those xtra mile a normal guy wouldnt go, he would do it for me. like a close friend on the phone. like hi bye friends when chatting online or texting. I got really confused. bcoz I never knew how he felt (even til now). through out these 4 yrs I was the only one calling. he never called.

the saddest part were during the period of my obsession with him, there was another guy (let's call him C). C was like my best friend, always listen to me crying about M. he was like an angel to me. forever taking care of me, always being there for me, advicing me through all my difficulties. we spend long hours on the phone talking about almost everything under the sun. to the extend that when I was curious about sex, he even showed me my first porn! we did ntg la. I would consider C as the first guy who treated me so good, better than anyone I ever known then. it was wayyy later that C could not supress his feelings any longer & finally confessed.

but I was still so "in-love" with M I could not accept C as my significant other. until now I do not get it. why do I ga-ga over an a$$hol3 who treats me like crap most of the time & let go of one of the guy who treats so incredibly nice.

well those were the days la. I guess sometimes we all want what we couldnt get. all the 'pain is pleasure' theory. we know we're gonna get hurted by dating bad boys & still we do it bcoz deep down inside we love the excitement. we love the pain although it hurts.

the logic is simple. we human like pretty things. if we have a choice we wud choose a pretty partner. Just say this guy A, like this hot chick B. but B is also human n she like hot guys too. so if A is good looking enuff for B. then they have a chance of being together. if not then A is sure to get his heart broken. it all depends on your expectations & how you define beauty.

from a 3rd party point of view. you never understood why guys go for girls they could never get. why girls love bad boys. here the clique "love is blind" fits perfectsly =)

hm, for me i got to know a girl and well, i'm sorta trying to woo her, ahaha.

but the thing is that she's actually on rocky grounds with her supposed boyfriend. she thinks that she's out of her mind loving this guy who actually sniffs glue and smokes. she tells me she thinks she's stupid because despite him playing around with other girls but she still feels attracted to him. as for now, they're not talking but she still misses him even though he sounds like such a conceited and egotistical jerk thinking that he can have every girl in the world. well, i guess this is one of the instances where it truly proves that most girls go 'heart' over heels because of these guys around.

what about me? aha i'm playing it cool and maybe there's a part of me who wants the guy to back off and take the girl. at least i don't smoke or sniff glue right? ahaha oh well, i sorta showed my egotistic side. ironic but shows that i'm really a guy, ahaha.

I know of a guy who tries really hard to impress a really hot and pretty chick. He did so much, putting down his man-ego just to impress this girl he fell head over heels with. But i would say, she's really hot. Not that i'm a lesbian though. He has a minimum allowance and for her birthday, he went to this crystal shop and got her a beautiful Grand Piano because that's what she wished for. There goes a few hundred dollars. This hot and pretty chick, just like any other girls, is a big fan of Winnie the Pooh. He went around looking for a cute looking plush toy but to no avail. He then decided to go as Winnie the Pooh for the day. He went to a costume shop, rented a Winnie the pooh costume and on that day, he walked around her neighbourhood in the winnie the pooh costume he rented, with a bouquet of roses in his pooh mittens. Let's not talk about the dollars paid to rent the costume and the effort he put in looking for costume shops one after another. But the fact that he rather let the girl's neighbours laugh out loud at him clearly shows how hard he tried just as long as he can impress her. Later on in the night, he brought her and her bunch of friends to a buffet dinner at a high class hotel. My my, there goes another few hundred dollars. He even went to the extend of bugging me to teach him bake a cake for her. An egoistic guy baking a cake from scratch, just to look impressive. And after all he spent on her, he had to eat Indo Mee for dinner since he ran out of money. Isn't this enough to show how much one can try to impress a hot and pretty chick?

LOL!!

1stly, Robbie Williams scored chicks coz of his really hot accent and reallllly HOT body ok? there's nothing to do with womne's heart nor brain.

2ndly, House's hot coz of his Confidence. Not coz of that ego of his.

3rdly, that malaysia's first spaceman feel a little too sissy for me... and he's only just a treat for the eyes. Kenny, you can easily beat him lar, though physically you might stand on the losing end...

I think a girl looks the most gorgeous is when she lowers her head down to either stuff a spoonful of noodle into her mouth or to sniff the scent of a flower, pull her dangling hair to the back of her ears, then look at me and either smile or chuckle. Those gestures will definitely melt my heart.

Sorry for the poor description. I hope my words are illustative enough for you to imagine. hehe
Thanks.

I think both sexes judges each other from the physical appearance of the opposite sex at first glance. Its just human nature to do a double at a guy like our Mr Astronaut & a girl like Stephanie Chai. The difference is what happens after the 'infatuation/lust at first sight' stage.

I believe most Malaysian girls have a certain set of criteria when it comes to choosing their partner. Some may not admit it, but let me share with you what a typical Malaysian girl wants out of a guy in chronological order:-

1. Financial Independence.
Topping the 'criteria list' will have to be $$$. Most girls wants a guy who is able to provide for them financially, if not, at least be financially well off on their own. Its sad, but true. So the heart doesnt rule the brains afterall. ;)

2. Personality
Don't roll your eyes cos its true. Most girls are educated these days. Gone are the days where girls are shy and lack in confidence and opinions. Girls these days are very expressive and articulate(thanks to TV and Internet). It will be difficult if not an uphill task to maintain a relationship with a partner who doesnt connect with them on the same level.

3 or 4 : Looks / Good Heart
Its a toss up between the two.

Some girls needs to be physical attracted to a guy before they can consider whether the guys is bf material or 'just friends' material. Its not shallow, its reality. You cant be in a relationship with somone whom you cant see yourself being physically intimate with, can you?

Other girls just wants a guy who's got a good heart, ie nice guy. This being ranked 3rd or 4th explains why 'nice guys finish last' cos if you dont satisfy criteria 1 & 2 (& 3 in some cases), you probably wont be heading anywhere with the girl.

So its not totally right to say that girls fall with their hearts (and without brains :P).

If girls really fall with their hearts blindly, will you guys be as wary as you are of gold diggers girls?? Will there be as many single men and women out there today ?? I dont think so.

Fact:-Girls (in general) are attracted to bad guys. Not sure why, maybe it’s the sense of uncertainty and “living at the edge” kind of experiences in which a “gangsta sort of guy” can offer seems a more attractive prospect as compared to the mundane predictability that a normal bloke offers. Being safe ain’t a sexy option, huh?

This is my true story. Way back in high school, I was a goody two shoe student, not really nerdy but nerdy enough, scoring a string of A’s in class and what not. I was infatuated with this new girl who was the hottest property in school then. I was in form 4 and she was in form 2. All the boys were crazy about her, and I’m so one of them. I knew pretty well then, that with my nerdy outward appearance, I won’t catch much of her attention in the midst of the hotter guys swooning for her attention at every opportune moment. And that was the case, until…

Until I started making drastic changes. I started to curse like nobody’s business (I no longer curse now…just so you know.hahahha), taking upon a “50-cent gansta” persona, playing truant, enter into unnecessary fights, making news for the wrong reasons, and guess what, only then she started noticing my existence, bearing in mind my class were opposite hers. -______-“

I took another 2 months to finally land her as my gf.

Hope this simple tale from my high school days answers your question.

Cheers.
~Long live buzz lightyear.

correction- Illustrative, not illustative..
sorry

Girls know that bad boys will break our hearts.
Which is why, they are perfect for flings, and for flings only. They intrigue us, thats it.

Ask any girl who she'd rather settle down with though - it will be the nice guy.

I agree with Rose and Jargos here,

Its doesn't really matter you are a good guy or bad guy.

Before all these even starts, as long as you have $$$$$ , superb looks, and superb attitude , you will get tons and tons of girls chasing after you.

Whats the point of acting like a bad guy when in the end you end up frying "Char kuey tiaw" ?

I can tell you, your future mother in law and father in law don't like these "bad guy" attitude.

Whats the point of being a good guy when all you get is the "leftovers" , "used 2nd hand things" ?

Just be yourself, and focus on those 3 things.
Work hard, go to gym, and socialize.

FOR GOODNESS SAKE, PSE STOP REFERING SHEIKH AS ASTRONAUT. HE'S NOT. TO CALL HIM AN ASTRONAUT IS AN INSULT TO NASA. HE'S ONLY A SPACE TRAVELLER OR PASSENGER. SIGH.....THINK ABOUT IT DUDE.......!

Perfect timing is everything.

Our earth is made of 50% boys and 50% girls.

Lets assume 5 guys and 5 girls is placed on an Island.

Somehow or rather, it doesn't matter if you are rich or smart, good or bad, it all doesn't care. cause somehow or rather, the 5 guys will get married to the 5 girls.

Simple as that.

If you are a nice nerdy guy, go find a nice nerdy girl who appreciates you to be your GF/WIFE.

Life is simple. Don't take things to complicated.

Urgh, I can't stand arrogant bad boys.
Did you notice that 1. Robbie Williams is SINGLE? He has no steady relationship? Sure, he has lots of girls throwing themselves at him. But how many fulfilling long lasting relationships do you think he has and which would you prefer?
2. House is... A CHARACTER. A SINGLE CHARACTER. Nuff said.
3. Can't comment don't know him. But 2 out of 3 makes a point doesn't it?

Sorry, he aint no astronaut, just a gomen funded passenger.

astronaut = space traveler. web - activities.macmillanmh.com/science/ca/grade3/glossary/a.html

aaahh... the theory when ' a girl falls for the bad boy'.

hey kenny,in a guy's point of view,i think you are right!there a few types of girls i met,two of the most obvious one is the one who is always the "poplular" ones who wants many people to notice them or get people's attention by having "popular boys" or the "bad boys" who drive sporty or eyes cathing rides.To put in short,this types or girls doesn't understand between "need a guy" and "love a guy",they just want to show off,And of course,that "special" someone mostly will be glad and joyful to date with the most beautiful girl in school,right?
The next type of girls i know is the ones who only kept daydreaming about that good looking guys and starting to have a crush on someone like Brad Pitt,like what you said before,it seems that "the look" is so important to some girls.i also have to admit it here,ya,i like a hot and pretty girl too,but not until have a crush on the super hot taiwan model,ling zhi ling until sticking their poster all over my room's wall,no no no,most guys don't crazy until this "level".Because i think us guys don't crush on someone like ling zhi ling,we just "fascinated" by them,thats all.
well, i have no rights to change anything about you girls and your "dreams".because maybe most girls is like that especially dring their school or teenage days.what i gotta say is girls, "don't judge a book by it's cover",use both ur brains and eyes and make the right decision!

Eh stop teaching guys to be even MORE egotistical can? Thus society had enough jerks and nincompoops and spoilt mamacissy boys who thinks they make the world go round thankyouverymuch. Don't pull a 'Hitch'. Please

I couldn't help but agree with you. Girls love to date bad guy because they are more fun but in the end of the day, we wanted to settle down with the nice guy.

Agreed 100% with kenny.I too experienced the same thing.Lost to a guy that smokes,drinks,and hot tempered.She told me that she always quarreled with him,but she's attracted to him.why?she answered dunno.It's just feeling.I was always there for her when she need sumone to talk to.I'm always there to keep her away from danger,give her advise.I'm always there when she was crying and need sumone to confort her.What do i get in return.One sentence..yeah,that's what i get.a sentence that said "I cannot see u in my future,it's impossible".I end up looking for a counselor to help me cos my life is starting to get messy.now..everything is going according to my plan i hope.

hmmm...act i hav tis friend..he is 1 committed guy...tis guy duno izit kiasu or kiasi...but damn wen he goes 4 a gal reli xiao...act he din pursue juz 1 gal but several, anyway he once fell 4 tis gal n on her bday he gave her a rm70+ watch...n vr onli in secondary school..he is a shy guy...but he does alot of stuff 2 please a gal...his a hotlink subscriber but juz 2 keep in contact wit a gal he bought another digi simcard n d credit...lets juz say he reloads frequently..whr d hell he got all tis money!!!!...his not rich honestly...not a penny from his parents...den thr was once...it was raining heavily...vr at school doing sum project..she was hungry n she tried calling Mcds but 2 no avail(N dey promise 24 hrs service, bah..) so he ran out 2 d mamak outside of d school,called back n asked her if she n her frens wanted anything..all he got was tat lousy umbrella...when his after a gal his like another guy..more manlihood but i alwiz wonder y till now he is stil single...anyway v alwiz tease him as d guy hu wans cheebye duwan frens..== once it was his bday n a gal said she wanted a piece of cake, he bought tat cheesecake frm secret recipe in a decent box n handed 2 her d next day...u can imagine d rest of us looking at it asking whrs our piece of cake...damn...sumtimes he did so much n yet gain nothing i kinda felt a lil sorry 4 him... Anyway Kenny do i leave my email as in typing it into that box? or i leave it in my comment? a lil confusion in d instructions...(richie_tkl@hotmail.com)

gud guys end last...

wat more can i say... girls wanna hv as much fun as possible when they still can... dating the 'bad guys'... so they can b popular being wif the 'bad guy'... girls juz like the attention....
then after all the hard things they've been thru wif the 'bad guys', they settle down wif the gud guys... coz tats when they learned their lesson...

i admit tat i dun hv enuf ego 2 go 4 a girl...i dun like being turned down by girls... never confessed 2 a girl b4... tats y im still single now... haha.... but there r sum girls who r brave enuf 2 confess their feelings 2 me... but 2 bad i dun find a way i can b together wif them... so sadly i turned them down... the main reason i turned them down is bcoz i had a crush on this girl 4 a few years... but i juz dun feel 2 hv the perfect timing 2 confess.... so all i do is juz wait 4 the time 2 cum... through the waitin, i've been so worried tat sum1 might juz take her away... but all i can do is juz trust her....

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kenny, did u participate in the astronaut selection process?

anyway, i've a feeling that sum1 is reading this in the no-longer-planet-pluto..

and i won't be surprise if nestle wants to introduce its new products here..

interesting! :)

Nan ren bu huai, Nu ren bu ai!
To Kenny Sia and Everyone,

Heard of "nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai!"?(If guys are not bad, gals will never love them!). Well this phrase I learned it since I stepped into university life!

Ok here it goes, have you wonder why GOOD guys are losers? It’s not because they don’t have or lack the skill of “kao lui” (tackling a gal) or neither they are natural suck in it but rather they are just TOO GOOD!!!

You see, gals usually don’t find good guys attractive. You need to be a bit of the bad boy side (not totally bad but a bit will do) in the process of tackling a gal!!! Don’t believe? Let me tell you a story

Last month, I was having lunch with my best friend and yeah she is very pretty. When we were in my university hostel, I could notice every guy is seeing her.... even OLD MAN too!! (opssss hope I don’t insult people here.... but “Male” never change to be honest! Their eyes must move accordingly to the movement of pretty gals)

This best friend of mine is not just a simple best friend. I think we went into a hell of a Korean drama to be one best friend wuahahahaa! Yeah used to court her but in the end, we end up to be just good friends!! (How many people in the world have this privilege larr.... ooooo how lucky I am haha)

Then we did have some chit chat about our lives and updating between our self. Then I ask her a question "Eh last time I tried to woo you, almost “dapat” you then suddenly why like that (In the end she rejected me). What went wrong arr?" She just smile and say "You are just too good!” I was like WHAT!!!

Being Good is something everyone is trying to learn!!!! Something our religion teaches u..... Pendidikan Moral taught us..... Parents trying to educate us and I failed because why? I AM JUST TOO GOOD!!!

Then she explained further, “You see.... You need to add a bit of the bad side..... gals will find it very nice and interesting.... too good... for gals macam tak ada character larr” (ooooo now I know... there is indeed psychology factors in it) So bad guys wins!! Good guys lose!!

Yeah yeah I get the point, all this while I wonder why my good friend (yeah I have very few good friends and I think he knows who is he), always can tackle gals so fast and gals seems to like him even we have the same talents in many stuffs. This is because he is naughty and bad at times. And hell yeah he always teaches me how to be bad. But I just can’t learn like that! It is against my way (I know my “too good guy” technique can’t be used anymore). I am not an angel but I don’t be a bad guy just to court a gal, that’s trademark ok!!!

Comes to me a story too, there is a guy who tries to tackle a wonderful sweet average gal for 3 years. Then don’t know what the hell, another guy comes in and show his kung fu skill (the art of tackling a gal or gals) and court her in 1 week time!!! Sighhhh...... blame it on luck? Skill? Or just because he is too good?

I think many of you all will get the point by now. To all who consider themselves as good guys, going to be good guys, incoming training to be a good guy, WAKE UP!!! It won’t work! You need a bit of bad side at times!!! If not you will start mourning WHY OH WHY (it’s a song which I love it most) and starting to sing sad pity love songs!

So good guys = F
Bad guy = C- to B-
Good plus bad = B+ to A

An informal measurement I just put there

Thought for reflection = Good guys never wins!! So WAKE UP!!! Start planning to be both bad and good at the same time. If not the big word “LOSER” will come to u!!!! (This is a special advice to every guy out there)

Hi Kenny, some of your words are agreeable.
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People people people....

Smoking, drinking, fighting is NOT cool !!! Trying to act like a stupit samseng is NOT cool. Talking foul languages is plain SILLY.

You all wanna know whats cool ?

You all wanna know how to get the most beautiful girl in the world ?

then be like DONALD TRUMP !!!!!

He has a mega company, Tons of money, and yet a bad guy in a Good way . I am referring to how he fires people on the boardroom.

Donald trump is the perfect example of how you get a Miss Universe (Melania his current wife) to marry you.

So please please.... I hope everyone gets an idea of what "bad guy" really means. Its bad, but in a good way aiming to achieve something positive out of it.

Just want to share my own experiences ;) I’m guilty of dating an egomaniacal jerk before, and then dumping him when he started becoming a complete baby around me. My friends thought I was making a big mistake dating him. They all thought his head was far too inflated for his own good, but at the time I just could not see it (really!). I have no idea why, love makes you blind I guess…

I was intrigued by his confidence, his boasting, and I did not see it as arrogance then. More like just a tactic to impress a girl, but not arrogance. Hey, a girl’s gotta be flattered if a guy knows what he wants and how to get it. He told everyone that he’s going to make me his gf eventually, and he did. But then somewhere along the way, he became a ‘nice guy’. Nice as in honey-I-will-do-absolutely-anything-for-you-woof-woof sort of nice. And soon after, I just lost interest in him…

Ok, before you start citing me as proof that women want ‘bad boys’, not ‘nice guys’, it is not what it seems. Women do not care whether a guy is ‘nice’ or ‘bad.’ However, women are interested in a guy’s status, money, how people view and interact with him, how outgoing he is and how exciting or cool his life is.

I did not break up with him because he turned ‘nice’. I broke up with him because his life revolved around me and he was not seen as a leader anymore. And a guy with no life of his own is just not attractive to women. I know this makes us seem like cold-hearted b*tches for mostly being attracted to the life the man has structured around himself, and not the man, himself, as a person, but it is true at least for me and many of my friends. The arrogance is just a demonstration of status, or a side effect, not the main thing women want. Men with the qualities above and who happen to be nice-but not spineless-will also have girls at their feet, perhaps even more than those arrogant types.

Sorry for writing such a long-ass essay, but I was on full steam there ;) It sucks to hear guys complaining, wah, I can’t get any chicks cause I’m a nice guy! That’s not the problem, be powerful, influential!

P/s: Kenny, you’re a famous blogger now. Ahem, I’m sure you have no trouble getting girls, providing that you show you’re a success, of course.

What happen if you get the girl? So what next? And when you re done.. Are you going to reveal your trueself, How long can you gonna pretend to be a bad boy/man/jerk? of who you really are? still hiding behind the silly mask that you put up. Think again.
Girls are much smarter than all of us guys might think of them..
What happens if you fall in love?Still be a faker. So guys just try to look clean and dress smartly and be a gentleman. Treat her with respect and dunt be someone you are not.

*laughs* I like confidence in a guy.. not really arrogance. But a little EGO and arrogance is good *bleh* and YES I LOVE HOUSE! *dies* hahaa I dont like guys who try too hard. Those that BE MEAN and ACT ARROGANT for the sake of IMPRESSING a girl. its so horrible. I do like gentlemans. =) I like guys who HOLD THE DOOR, LET YOU WALK OUT FIRST. i mean seriously, nowadays people are just ALL PUSHING. =__="

they'd be like 'ladies? what ladies?' *pushpush* 'i wanna go out first! as if a few seconds would bloody hurt them. *stabs guys* ohohohoho =) guys with great smiles rock. (not related but bleh)

Well I know a guy who has tried very hard to impress a girl. And that guys me... Well before I go into that topic. I agree with Kenny tat guys with big ego do get chicks because I’ve experience it before. Well I was with this girl and I treated pretty badly. Well that was because I was arrogant and boastful around her. Anyways that relationship ended.

Now let’s fast forward to the present. I've had feelings for this girl for over a year now and I've abandon my evil ways. I try my best to be a gentleman around her being nice and humble, but look where I am now. She doesn’t even give a damn about me, replying when ever she wishing ignoring me, even discriminating me at times.

Therefore, I agree with Kenny that girls do like guys with big ago and guys who are soft and all wont get girls because they are often taken advantage of... For example... ME!!!

Kenny this is my story..... which juz happened not too long ago..... There were 03 guys involed :

Guy No. 1 - JL
Guy No. 2 - FZ
Guy No. 3 - PV

All these 03 guys know each other...i met all 03 guys on the same day in an event... the very first day JL showed me overloads amount of interest and the next thing u know it we were hooked up together after a merely 3 dates!!! I have to admit i was the desperato one here..... So... happy that i gottten someone finally after a failed 01+ year plus relationship (in which is the longest record), me and all 03 fellas came out for the nite and chill.....who knew....

PV went ballastic and asked me "Why the hell are u with JL??" "Wat?? Why??? is there a problem??"My reply towards PV.... Turns out that JL is a problematic guy and is TOO Egostic to be with and worse stil he has money problems and yet he boosts non stop on how successful he is...... Ya ppl might say there's some conflict in between JL and PV but i got the very same comments from 2 different persons on the same night!!

As time goes by, JL started as wat PV commented... and also this time around of all timings FZ came into the picture showing whole lots of interest towards me..... So i ended stuck in one bloody, going no where relationship yet there's another option for me..... 01 month into the relationship with JL, we quarreled and lastly that Egostic fella fleed in which he claimed to be a "chill out" moment for the both of us but he just disappeared into thin air!!! So wat do call this Kenny?? Chickened out or a mere A**hole?!!

It was a horrifying experience after all with JL but being young with so many choices and chances around i can't help but drift my feelings towards FZ... he came around during my peakest times with JL yet he stil can be as calm and charming..... We went out on several occasions .... This time around indeed i am suffering from a breakup but i'm not heart broken ... Strange but true ... Thinking that i just ended a nasty relationship like that i decided it's best that i got to know the person well b4 i make or agree to the next step....

Ironically .... after hanging out for a while with PV and FZ....... All of a sudden, PV confested that he likes me........ OMG!!! Yet he knows very well that i Do indeed have feelings for FZ.... Worse thing is PV and FZ are a hell of good frens ever since primary school..... Scenario is i have 02 good pals going after me...

But little did i know..... the feelings that FZ now holds for me are slowly vanishing into thin air.... Is it bcoz he's Too Arrogant to keep trying??? Or is he the type that just easily gives up?? Suddenly he can be so nice and caring towards me and next day u know he treats me as if i'm Invisible!!! I could not take this kind of treatment anymore so off i go with Me Making the 1st move (Note: FZ did not directly confess to me but he told the whole gang that he has interest in me...) FZ's birthday came around and there's me ... Rushing to buy fresh roses to him, rushing to his birthday party to hand delivery it to him and putting all my feelings down onto paper and pen just to tell him how much i feel towards him...... Outcome: NIL............. Neither did FZ replied me in Even an SMS of my letter... he just treat as if nothing happens... So wat do u think of this Kenny?? Too Ego Again?? LOL :)

PV on the other hand, i'm stil as close as i was the day i met him and yet he doesn't stop wit his showering of love and care towards me... ALthough i have made myself clear that i Do Not have a whee bit of feelings towards him! I know this might be cruel but Yes Kenny Sia u are very correct when u mentioned - We girls fall in love with Our Hearts ... Ther is a Chinese saying that Forcing Will Not Bring U Happiness ....

It's kinda of a confusion of why suddenly Men can easily fall for a person and the next thing they can just drop their feelings off somewhere in the long kang!!! So is it true that (Most) Guys will fall with their EYES?? Til this day i am stil having feelings towards FZ but i can definetly know that there wil be no outcome no matter how much i try..... Egostic can make a person LOSE whether it's Interest or Feelings quicker that a jet setting rocket to outer space!!!!!!!! So people OPEN UP YOUR EYES, DO MAKE THE 1ST MOVE AND MAKE USE OF YOUR TIME!!

I'm really annoyed with the word 'angkasawan' at the moment I wrote a whole post about it. I mean when it's used in English sentences :P Engkasawan? Actually what's the proper English term for it??

And oh, I don't think the ENGKASAWAN would need all those to attract the girls. The girls would still melt because of his good looks. A lot of the time a lot of girls fall in love with their eyes also :)

Hh? Girls love Dr House? As in romantically? I certainly love the show. I certainly love the character. But sorry, not romantically interested. I'm sure it's the same with many ladies. No offence but your examples fail to illustrate your point... I can explain the other examples if you like but then my comments would take up too much space :)

Women are often helplessly drawn to egoistical men because of the confidence he displays; no doubts about that. But that is merely the initial attraction.

The chance of a woman of marrying an egomaniac is highly unlikely, unless he's got something more to offer.
Most women wouldn't want to spend their lives with daredevils; at the end of the day,I'm sure they prefer to live with a gentle, reliable, down-to-earth man instead.

To make it simple, nice guys have the last laugh, I'm afraid.

LOL! i so love that pic with u doing that puppy dog eyes! omg! SO CUTE lah!! hahahahaa. and nicole too... u 2... can be actor and actress already.. lol. can pose till so 'chun' one oso. lol.

This a true story of mine.
I knew this girl from NS. Had a crash on her on 1st sight. Started to do the chasing process like dating her, get something for her whenever I am getting something for myself, Talk/laugh/joke with her, be by her side whenever she is lonely/sad and need someone to talk with, share thought too. *all of this started in NS*

Almost at the end of NS, she come to me and said "You are a nice caring person but I dont think I am suitable for you". Why she said that it is because during her secondary school, she had a boyfriend which she slept with before during the 4 years relationship. I told the girl that I dont mind about what the past of the girl has, I just wanna be with her. She just smiled at me and said "If you really is then you should not fall in love me"

So, I didnot give up at the moment although i feel sad when i heard that. But i continue to contribute my effort with win the girl's heart. As time goes by, The girl fall in love with one of my friend. I didnot know bout it until i notice something fishy during our gathering. I did not asked the girl about it until 1 day she invite me for a walk at Sungai Wang. There she told me about her relationship with the guy. I feel shock as the guy was asking the girl to restore back the relationship with the girl's friend but in the end, he win the girl that i hearted.

I didnot blame the girl for that but I keep waiting by the side of the girl although i am not hers lover. As long as I knew she is having a wonderful and happiness life, I am satisfied.
Is this stupid or great, is depend on yours own thought.

Datuk SMS is adorable.. too bad he's too old for me. lol. >.

I know some guys who sit there does nothing, and hopes that the girl will know that he's secretly in love with her.

wow, in that case i totally go against your post. haha. my personality and what you mention in the entry is different. i used to go thru the badboys phase, but i've realised that boynextdoors, sweet, humble, hopefully above average looks are much more appealing to me. :) bad boys are just so cliche.

I have two stories to share.

First, a story about my girl friend, Kristy. She was dating her then boyfriend for more than 2 years. My friend really really love this guy a lot. So much so that she's willing to do anything for him.

The guy, on the other hand, admits that he's not ready in a steady relationship. He just wants to have fun. He's not looking for a life partner or whatsoever. He even said that he's not over his ex-girlfriend and is also seeing another girl.

Knowing that, my friend did not mind at all, and still love him whole-heartedly and hope that one day, she could make him change his mind and love her with all his heart.

He is a real sweet talker, ego, selfish.. to summarize it, he's a real bad boy. He even sweet-talks my friend, to get her to sleep with him, and she did. Call my friend dumb, but she's hopelessly in love. She's willing to do anything at all, just to be with him.

Two weeks down the road, her heart was crushed. He dumped her, but still want to maintain friend. Leaving my friend heart broken, he still call and SMS her once in a while – telling her how much he misses her and want to spend time with her. And when they meet again, he just wanted one thing from her – sex!

One day, my friend finally came to realize that he was just using her and she’s better off without him. One year later today, she’s still in depression and thinks that she’ll never find any good guy.

Second story, is about a guy friend, Abel. He met this girl, Shannon through his sister - his sister’s best friend. She’s pretty, hot and sexy. She’s a good friend too – helpful, caring and fun to be with. They both came to KL to continue their studies. As they are both away from home, their relationship became closer as they promised the sister to take care of each other.

Abel started to have feelings for and express his feelings for her. She accepted his love. They started dating. But there are times that Shannon would give excuses like she’s busy with assignments or she got exams coming. But she didn’t know that they have mutual friends. At times when she tells him that she’s busy with studies, she’s actually out with other boys.

Abel did not care and think that she probably had agreed to go out with her friends much earlier and that she don’t know how to tell him the truth and so she make up excuses.

However, at those few times that they did went out for dates, she would make him treat her to expensive restaurants, buy her gifts and such. She’s so good with manipulating his mind. She won’t say that she wants him to buy gifts for her, but she will say things like “These shoes are so nice, but I’m kinda broke this month. Hey.. you still owe me Christmas present. Nah, buy this for me as Christmas present, pleaseee.”

Abel is not from a rich family. In fact, his family has got some financial issue, and she knows that. But knowing that he’s working part time in KL, she knows that he have some money. But she’s forgetting the fact that he’s paying every cents of his tuition fees, allowances and accommodation with his own hard earn money. He has to send money home too. After every date, he’ll be so broke for the rest of the month that he lives with just bread.

Shannon on the other hand, is from a quite well off family, but she has never offer to pay for the taxi fare, lunches/dinners and have never get him any gifts. None for Christmas, Valentine’s Day or even birthday presents. She’s just one typical gold-digger.

Lucky for Abel, he realized that she’s just playing with his heart and using him to buy her things. He left her, and finally met someone who loves him genuinely.

Now Kenny, your question - Is it true that girls fall in love with their hearts and guys fall in love with their eyes? Based on these two stories – Yes, absolutely.

omg. you REALLY should not be giving dating advice to the public. you're such an embarrassment.

if you're talking about casual dating, girls obviously prefer the more attractive guy so your point where you compare the fat photo of you hugging a bear and looking pathetic to the photo of slender-looking arth, the girls are obviously gonna pick the non-fat guy.

duh. it's got NOTHING to do with ego! it's a very very superficial shallow thinking of every human female or male to wanna go out with the member of the opposite sex who is RELATIVELY more attractive.

now if you're talking settling down for life partners, that's a whole different thing. girls SHOULD be choosing the person they're most comfortable spending the rest of their life with and consider the stability of the rship and whether the guy provides security throughout. this is as opposed to choosing a marriage partner on the basis of his hotness.

in the latter case, sure, if the girl finds that she can lead a relatively more stable life with fat purple-bear-hugging pathetic-looking you as opposed to arrogant, womanizing arth, then she's obviously gonna choose you lar.

it's got nothing to do with falling for someone's ego la pls. ego is such a turn-off okay.

(unless some girl out there has some weird fetishes)

both sides has got pros and cons.

the weak ones are soft, gentle and sensitive
the stronger ones are man, brave and looks like lots of fun.

but the weak ones might sometimes be too dependent and scare to get into trouble or simply just afraid, thus missing chances to approach some girls that he admire.

while the strong ones might get the girl, but that doesnt mean it last. lots of girls had got relationship with cool guy/model/fun guy, but because of thier egos, certain girls just cant stand them and ended up ugly. studs simply just thinks that they can "get" girl easily.

what i am trying to say here is: I dont see why you cant be both?

certain times u be the softy and sensitive, but other time u can also be the rock hard cool confident guy.

be flexible, so u can attract more girls. not u only u attract those that dig the softies, and also those that digg hard cool ones. even better u also attract those that looking for something on both sides.

for guys, start learning from both sides. it is ok to be sensitive yet cool.

and girls, dont stick to one type of guys. you dont know what u like untill you sees it, just like cloths. summer costume wont be suitable in the winter.

every snow will fall into its right place, and u cant change it. just be open minded (yet have a list of avoid, like smoking, or rage) and you shall bumb into girl/guy that you find interesting. ying wont be complete without yang. man wont be complete without women, and i am sure this works the same with personalities: ego will not be significant with contrasting with soft side.

brain and heart shall always work together.

afdvnoandoan oen

I dont think it is good to make fun of a man who just lost his beloved brother. Be more sensitive la, apek...!

Sad fact but its true that bad, arrogant guys that dont seem like a perfect partner in the perspective of men are often the ones getting the chicks.

But still, a good mix of the bad and the good are those who have a longer relationship. a little more or a little less will just be, in worst case scenario (not really for the guy but more for the girl), a one night stand for the bad boys, and jerking off in his room for the good guys.

Girls.

If you shower them with attention, they don't appreciate it.

THE MOMENT you stop showing them any attention, IMMEDIATELY she do everything to win back your